On Friday, June 20, 2014, I submitted my resignation from a job which I’ve held for the past eight years. I have no new job lined up, I have no savings or safety net, and the job market in London is unfavourable.
Boy do I feel dumb.
There are all sorts of reasons I could have (and probably should have) talked myself into staying at a job which made me miserable every single day, but I finally decided that enough was enough. As of August 1st, I'm free.
Now to find something to pay the bills.
If you’ve been reading my blog to this point, you probably know that I intend to become a practicing Dom. This seems like as good a time as any to start. That’s not going to be my main focus, however. Long before I knew I had an interest in domination, I had been helping people, friends and lovers alike, to feel more comfortable and confident in themselves and their sexuality. Over the years I’ve learned a lot about men, women, and the nature of intimacy.
I would like to offer my services as an Intimacy Coach.
“What’s an intimacy coach?”, you might ask. I see an intimacy coach as a person who can help develop a person’s confidence in the bedroom and smooth the way for more enjoyable intimate interactions. Most of the women I’ve known have been unable to fully enjoy themselves during sex because their minds are caught up with what their partner might think of them.
A quick aside, even if you're 100% certain that your partner thinks the world of you, focussing on it in the bedroom will only keep you from engaging fully and enjoying yourself. How much more this is true if you're worried that you don't look good, or that you won't be good at it, or that you might fart.
None of that matters, not really. Sex is about two people enjoying each other, and themselves. I will teach my clients to worry about their own satisfaction, and let the rest fall into place.
Becoming comfortable in bed isn't easy, and it takes practice above all. I'm here to help with the practice. From learning how to talk about sex and desires, to being comfortable being naked together, right up to orgasm, or not, and teaching my client, man or woman, that the orgasm isn't the point.
How far it goes would be completely up to the individual. If all you need is a sex talk, I can do that. If you want the full practical experience, I can do that too. Sex is a passion of mine. Not just having it or studying it, but teaching about the human body and how it relates to confidence. I hope that this has helped to explain my views and thoughts. If anyone out there thinks that they or someone they know might benefit from my experience, please point them my way.
Thanks for reading,
-Step
